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My ex refused to allow the kids to come over on Christmas
Eve or day. She said it was *her* holiday. Well the kids
came over the day after and my friend asked them what did
mom get them for Christmas. They replied nothing. I was
incredulous. I said you mean you didn't get anything for
Christmas. They said that the guy that my ex is shacked
up with bought them presents. I dont mind the guy buying
them things but isn't it wrong to delude the children? |
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-What do your divorce papers say about holidays? If they don't say anything
and you want to be able to spend part of it with your children I suggest you
go back to a lawyer and have it changed. It's pretty obvious she's not going
to do the right thing on her own.
If you're supposed to have them for either Christmas Eve or Day and she
refused, find out what you need to do to enforce the agreement and do it.
Don't let it slide. If you don't fight for your rights you may lose them.
As for the gifts......I don't see how the children are being deluded. -Sorry you didn't get to see the kids at Christmas... I would think either the
actual day or the "eve", one or the other, should have been arranged..(I saw
mine on Xmas eve)...
As for your ex's partner buying the kids gifts, i see nothing really wrong
with that. It seems that there may have just been some oversight in how the
"to/from" labels were written.. My bf and i gave (and receive) some gifts
"together" while others separately... We found it more appropriate to do
gifts to our children (we each have our own) separately, however, being that
we aren't technically "family"...
Something we have to learn to accept in the world today is that the definition
of "family" has changed so much.... With separations, divorces, remarriages,
cohabitation situations, multi-generational households, roommate situations,
etc. etc. i like to believe that a "family" consists of the people with whom
i share my life and my love, whether they be a part of my household or not,
whether or not related by blood, a marriage contract, etc...
Sure, my ideal would be to live as Mommy and Daddy, with children and
grandchildren and all that, in one big old happy household, but it's not
reality...
Back to the original point about "deluding" the children, i don't see the
"present" situation (no pun intended) as such...
I think they just goofed up on how they labeled them.... |
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