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but I wanted some opinions.I have two step-children,
andd one child of my own. My child's dad has not been involved with her
since she was two, so the only family she has is my family(If you remeber,
we do not associate with DH family). My step-children have mom's who they
will be spending Christmas with, and then coming to our house.Last year, we
bought the same amounnt for each child, but then the children started
talking about all the gifts they got from the other side of their family,
and my child felt left out. She did not understand why Santa gave so much
more to her Step-sisters than he did her. DH thinks we should give more to
her this year so that even though he stops at only one place innstead of
two, she still recieves as much. I am split on my opinion. I feel like, yes
his children will be getting more due to the fact that they get gifts from
two places, and that may not be fair. But I am also trying not to show
partiality to my child over my step-children. Any of you have opinions on
this? |
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-I grew up with steps and halves and such. How old are the steps? I tried
not to make a big deal out of all the other gifts I got at other homes when
I went to my dad's. The 3 kids at my dads only had 1 family giving gifts,
like yours.
If you give yours more, could you make some of them from Santa? We did my
gifts with my FT family for Chanukah (we're Jewish) and then Christmas at my
dad's every other year. It worked out pretty well, maybe you could have a
nuclear family Christmas Eve and then Christmas with the 3 kids? -Both children are 5. My other step-daughter is 13, so she understands since
she doesnt believe in Santa. The problem is with Santa. Since Step-daughter
gets presents from Santa at her moms and at our house, it leaves my DD
wondering "Was she better than I was this year?" and"Why does Santa like her
more?' -Both children are 5. My other step-daughter is 13, so she understands since
she doesnt believe in Santa. The problem is with Santa. Since Step-daughter
gets presents from Santa at her moms and at our house, it leaves my DD
wondering "Was she better than I was this year?" and"Why does Santa like her
more?' -Try giving her one or two extra gifts to be unwrapped earlier, before
the stepchildren arrive. That way when they talk about their presents
that they've already opened, she can talk about her presents that
she's already opened, but neither of them gets to open visibly more
right in front of the other. Or, if her stepsisters are old enough to
understand it, have their father talk to them about the bad manners of
bragging about one's possessions to those who have less. |
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